Getting Upset


Losing temper commonly is referred to as the opposite of being patient. You fail to present yourself in the way you like to be seen by others. You don’t keep calm as you prefer to. You are hastily saying things that you even might regret later on.

You feel something is going wrong. You are not sure what to make of something another person says or does.

You don’t have a ready concept on how to deal with a situation. You lose your composure. Per chance you tend to feel hurt or disappointed. At the same time you may feel bad about your own reaction and behaviour.

Such things may happen in any human relationship. People who professionally care for other men and women may know of such incidents too.

If you should be living in a foreign country with a foreign culture at times you may painfully realise that people round you have a way of thinking different from your own. They may react emotionally and be upset about things you would not care much about – and vice versa.

Little children tend to have their own peculiar way of thinking. At times they prove to be completely unaware of adult businesslike concepts of effective behaviour.

Special needs children may feel very differently about certain things. They may fail to appreciate what we might expect from them.

Elderly individuals may be strange at times. Those suffering from dementia may suddenly behave in ways that they might have objected to themselves in younger days. This can be especially irritable to family members.

Old people may be unhappy about losing strength and various abilities. Forgetfulness may be another problem area. To family members this can be a painful situation.

Life presents various opportunities to lose temper. There may be many situations that make us feel upset.

Introducing us to his 13th chapter in 1 Corinthians St. Paul has said he wanted to point us to a better way. In spite of various gifts, skills and abilities at times we may fail to adequately deal with certain situations.

Love and appreciation may be a bridge. People may not understand your language or the words you say. Yet they will be aware of your attitude towards them.

According to St. Paul somehow faith in God is a source of such love. As we become aware of how loving and patient God is with ourselves we may learn to be patient with others too.

Here is 1 Corinthians 13:4 according to the PHILLIPS translation: “This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience – it looks for a way of being constructive. It is not possessive: it is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance.”



This post has been partly inspired by an article of another blogger. The author of “Sometimes Care Giving Stinks” usually writes about experiences in living with and raising an autistic child. In the following I am giving you a link to one of his posts. Here he also refers to caring for a person with dementia. He provides some interesting links. Reading this post may help you understand what per chance could incite us to lose our temper.

” Only human | Sometimes Care Giving Stinks

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Auf meinem deutschen Blog möchte ich kurze Texte über Matthäus 11 Verse 28 bis 30 veröffentlichen und die frohe Botschaft von Jesus Christus anschaulich machen. Es lohnt sich, Jesus Christus zu vertrauen. On my new English blog "Motivation of Christian Love" I am sharing my thoughts on 1 Corinthians 13 and other biblical texts.
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3 Responses to Getting Upset

  1. caregivingstinks says:

    Thank you for reading and sharing. Here’s something more personal from my blog, something painful that happened to me and demonstrates the issues you are addressing.

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  2. Thank you for this link which points to some extreme experience with your autistic child. Obviously referring to life problems for illustrative purposes is one thing. Experiencing such situations is quite something else. I appreciate your blog and the opportunity to get my mind exercised about situations in caring for special needs children I may be little aware of otherwise.


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