One method of explaining something is describing its opposite. In 1 Corinthians 13:5 Paul states that love “seeketh not her own.” (KJV). To explain this you might describe how a loving person might go at length to encourage and to lift somebody else. Or you might simply refer to forms of selfishness.
I have been going through a list of scripture passages where the same Greek word for “seeketh” or for “own” is used. Today this leads me to Jude 13+18:
“Raging waves of the sea, foaming out their own shame; wandering stars to whom is reserved the blackness of darkness for ever. … 18 How that they told you there should be mockers in the last time, who should walk after their own ungodly lusts.” (KJV)
“Foaming out their own shame” – what an expressive image. Water shows itself in a unique way, when waves are pouring on cliffs for example. Water then is mixed with air, and is foamy.
People can be very expressive. Now Jude here says some were really displaying their own shame.
Please note that Jude was convinced that everybody one day would have to appear before the judgment seat of God, even as is taught in other passages of the bible. The word shame here would refer to what somebody would feel shameful about when coming into God’s presence on judgment day.
In verse 18 he speaks of individuals following “their own ungodly lusts”. Lustful desires can be the cause of a lot of pain and heartbreak. Following lusts may result in short-lived pleasures. Yet there is no guarantee whatever for lasting joy and happiness.
“Ungodly lusts” would refer to drives that disregard Christian ethical standards. Lying, stealing and harming others may seem to be desirable at times. Yet this leads you away from the God of love.
Godliness is an attitude that seeks to stay in touch with the God of love. Godliness teaches you to view others from God’s perspective.
Paul can say that love “seeketh not her own”, because he had become so aware of God’s love and compassion towards himself. As you learn to rest in God’s love, new motives will begin to spring forth within your heart. God’s love will grow in you higher goals than merely seeking selfish gain.